Lesson 3 was on Grace…The main idea was:
You are in need of God’s grace.
Ephesians 2:4-5 (ESV)
“But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved”
The definition of Grace as it pertains in Christian belief is:
“The free and unmerited favor of God, as manifested in the salvation of sinners and the bestowal of blessings.”
“God saved you by His grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.”
The lesson made this powerful parallel between this verse and how our interactions with our spouse should be.
“Just as your relationship with God is grounded in grace, so must your relationship with your spouse be grounded in grace. It’s the foundational pillar to any healthy relationship.”
Have you ever thought about extending grace to your spouse as being critical to a healthy marriage? It spouses could grasp this concept the “self-help” industry would plummet!
“The bottom line is that we are not good enough and neither is our spouse…That’s why grace is essential to your relationship.”
What my wife and I really love about this class is how practical the counsel is and it’s application. I love this on What grace in action looks like in action in marriage:
- Grace does not focus on the faults of your spouse.
- Grace is choosing to believe the best about their words and actions.
- Grace is not shocked or angry when your spouse’s actions are not perfect.
- Grace is not bringing up the ways your spouse has disappointed or hurt you in the past.
- Grace responds kindly to a harsh word or a cold shoulder.
- Grace causes you to be an advocate for your spouse rather than build a case against them.
- Grace is loving your spouse, not because of their actions, but in spite of their actions.
And here is the flip side of What Grace is Not?
“But extending grace doesn’t mean that you grant your spouse permission to continue to hurt you. And it doesn’t mean that the feelings of pain they have caused you are now invalid. However, to re-engage with your spouse, you must follow Christ’s example as an initiator. He initiates again and again because His love for you is perfect, and His love for you perseveres – even when you’re most unlovable.”
A friend of mine told me this and I will close with this…
“God is not looking for a perfect Christian but a persistent one.” Gene Winterhalter
None of us are perfect but God desires us to chase after Him and be persistent in extending grace to the one that He blessed us with.
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