★ Thought for the Day – What Does It Mean To Be A Man? ★ 

There has been, and continues to be, much debate on what the answer is to this question.  Depending on what your childhood was like, the statement “Be A Man” can bring up a variety of emotions and memories.  In this broken world, there are many hurting men who have not worn this phrase as a badge of honor, but rather have been crushed and bruised by it.  But if we look to scripture, we see a very different design of what God’s intention is…1 Corinthians 16:13-14 (ESV),

08 - Act Like Men - 1 Cor 16 - 13-14
“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.  Let all that you do be done in love.”

These two verses are packed with very clear directives that offers great advice and insight to answer our Thought for the Day.  James MacDonald explained it this way on what “Act Like Men” means:

08 - Act Like Men - James MacDonaldDon’t Act Like a Woman
(Lead, Don’t Follow)

Don’t Act Like an Animal
(Don’t be domineering, only caring about what you want)

Don’t Act Like a Child
(See 1 Corinthians 13:11 ESV)

Don’t Act Like a Superhero
(Be Real!)

 

What Does It Mean To Be A Man?

  • It means being a leader, not a followerput away passivity!
  • It means putting the needs of others before yourssacrificially serving!
  • It means growing upputting aside childish ways!
  • It means laying aside the capeand being transparent about your weaknesses and failures so that others will not be destroyed trying to be something that you’re not!

Today, I pray that your understanding of what it means to “Be A Man,” will align with God’s grand design…if you do, your legacy will be forever changed!

Here is the first in a series of posts from the “Act Like Men” Book by
James MacDonald called. . .★ Act Like Men – “Acting Like Men” ★

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14 thoughts on “★ Thought for the Day – What Does It Mean To Be A Man? ★ 

  1. To Our Sons
    by Casandra Martin
    Dear Son,

    You are becoming a man. We live in a world that is confused about how to define masculinity. Our society celebrates domination and calls that being a man. If someone can dominate on the field, in the bedroom, in the boardroom, in a classroom, in the spotlight, or on the street, they can get their ticket punched and the world pays attention. What they don’t tell you is how empty that leaves your soul.

    Strength is not found in how many people you can bully, how many women you can use, or how many points you can score. Being a man is about being strong enough to surrender, sacrifice, be self-controlled, and serve others.  Surrender invites you to step into a story larger than yourself. Its opposite is selfishness. Sacrifice encourages you to live in a God-empowered purpose, rather than an agenda of your own making. Self-control is freedom from the sticky lures of this world. Service allows you to see in ways to which dominance will always be blind.

    It is hard to stand alone. The pressure to be a man of the world is intense. It is going to require a courage, a fortitude, and a focus than can only be harnessed by a man willing to kneel at the cross. Being a man isn’t about having a certain set of genes, but about allowing God to have access to the DNA of your soul.

    Son, my Jesus Resolution today is to help you become the man God has always planned for you to be. I want to cheer you on, celebrate the moments when you choose wisely, set you on a strong foundation, and give you opportunities to practice true strength. I want to point out the real men who, in quiet strength, walk through your world and encourage you to follow them as they live out what it means to look like Jesus.

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  2. Good post.
    One question, though. I’m not sure “being a leader” is necessarily an intrinsic part of manhood. If it were, then any man who isn’t a leader would have to feel like they are less than a man.
    You comment on “be a leader” that it means “putting away passivity”. I’d agree that being a man means not being a passive blob or acting less than you are capable of being, but there’s a difference between that and leadership per se.
    “Be a leader” sounds all very well and good, very macho, but not everyone can lead. If everyone is a leader, then no-one is a leader, because part of being a leader is attracting followers.
    Thoughts?

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    • @geoffhorswood

      I completely agree with you! In business and in many areas of life, you are correct that there are leaders and followers and that is completely natural. When James MacDonald is saying to “be a leader,” that is in reference to families. There is nothing worse than a passive husband and/or father. From the beginning with the first family, passivity caused the fall of human beings! In Genesis 3:6 (NLT) it says:

      “The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too.

      The whole time that Eve was talking with the serpent (Satan), and discussing what God said or did not say about the fruit, Adam was standing right beside her and said nothing! That is what happens when a husband is passive, people get hurt and lives are ruined…as a result of Adam’s passivity, sin entered the world. So I am a firm believer that husbands need to step up and be the leader, and protect their wives and children. Do you agree?

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      • Um… While I agree that men shouldn’t be passive blobs, I actually think that the “leader/follower” paradigm isn’t helpful for family relationships. It too easily devolves into a positional hierarchy in which the man is the king and tyrant and the woman is an oppressed “little woman”.
        In the beginning, before the Fall, it was not so. When God brought Eve to Adam, he exclaimed “This is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh”, which is to say that they were full equals and partners. It’s only after the Fall that the whole patriarchal male leadership/wifely obedience thing comes in: “your desire will be for your husband _and he will rule over you_”.
        I see Adam’s sin in the Garden as more about choosing Eve over God than passivity.
        I also object to the implied teaching that women are inherently passive followers and cannot be leaders (“Don’t act like a woman: lead, don’t follow…”). My wife isn’t, nor should she be. Furthermore, there’s a whole string of leading women in the Bible, beginning with Deborah the prophetess, and that’s in a culture far more patriarchal than today.
        So I see where you’re coming from, but I’m not going there.

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      • I love that perspective that Adam chose Eve over God, he chose pleasing his spouse over pleasing God, great insight, I never thought of it that way.

        I agree with you that being a tyrant over your wife is not right nor what God wants, actually just the opposite. God knew that Men needed help and He blessed us with the perfect companion. In Genesis 2:18 (NKJV) God said “I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Being the leader does not mean that a husband rules over his wife, nor does it mean that she is less than, wives ARE comparable or equal to them. God set the man as the head of the household but he knew that the man was going to need help, for all aspects of thier lives. The key is working as a team loving and respecting one another.

        In Ephesians 5:24-25 (NIV1984) the Apostle Paul makes it clear how a husband ought to lead his wife, comparing his actions to that of Christ,

        “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…”

        The Greek translation for Love ins this passage is “agape,” which is a spiritual love, not sexual. It is by definition a selfless, and unconditional love that is not based on what the other person does for me but instead it is about sacrificing yourself for your spouse, just like Christ did. SO this is how to be the leader. As for women being a passive follower, I never meant to imply that at all. Great citations in the Word about strong woman. My wife is an incredibly strong woman as well.

        Love the dialogue with you.

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      • Yes, it’s been good dialogue. I guess part of the masculine tendency to want to protect his wife means I go after stuff that looks like it’s lessening her. I take the command in Ephesians 5 for husbands seriously – it’s my responsibility as a husband to see that my wife has every opportunity to become all that God wants her to be.
        This has been a good exchange. Iron sharpens iron.

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  3. You actually make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this matter to be actually something which I think I would never understand. It seems too complicated and extremely broad for me. I am looking forward for your next post, I’ll try to get the hang
    of it!

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